236: We're All In This Together—From Blame to Belonging with Mike Robbins

How can we create the psychological safety and belonging needed for the crucial conversations this moment demands of us? How can we apply the privileges we have for the highest good? How do we shift from blame to belonging to create change?

We are diving in to these topics and more with my longtime friendtor, Mike Robbins, based on themes from his latest book We're All in This Together. Mike also hosts a fantastic podcast of the same name, We’re All In This Together.

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More About Mike Robbins

Mike Robbins is the author of five books: Bring Your Whole Self to Work, Nothing Changes Until You Do, Focus on the Good Stuff, and Be Yourself Everyone Else is Already Taken, which have been translated into fifteen different languages.  His fifth book, We're All in This Together, just came out in April 2020.

Mike's a sought-after keynote speaker and facilitator whose clients include Google, Wells Fargo, Microsoft, eBay, Genentech, the NBA, the Oakland A's, and more. 

Topics Covered

• His wake-up moment in 1992 around what gave him invisible privilege

• Why it’s important for white people to talk to each other about race

• What ingredients are necessary for psychological safety

• Social media by its nature is not psychologically safe 

• The privilege of "not taking sides” and the reckoning to be clear where we stand

• This moment, pivoting around issues of race; how to speak up, listen

• “Us against them” energy that is exacerbated right now

• Brené Brown’s distinction between shame and guilt

• How we relate to ourselves: “We don’t see people as they are, we see them as we are”

• "Trust yourself: you know how to do this”

• Get out of your head and into your body
  
  

Resources Mentioned

• Mike on the Web

• Mike’s Books: Bring Your Whole Self to Work, Nothing Changes Until You Do, Focus on the Good Stuff, Be Yourself Everyone Else is Already Taken, and We're All in This Together

• Mike’s Podcast: We’re All In This Together

  • Jenny on Mike’s Podcast: How to Know When It’s Time to Pivot

• Book’s Mentioned:

  • White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Race

  • Nonviolent Communication: A Language for Life-Changing Relationships

  • Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out

• Related Pivot Podcasts:

  • 🦠235: Co-Journeying and Re-Opening—Roundtable with Dr. Anthony Harris and Dr. MJC

  • 234: Black Lives Matter. Listening, Learning, Growing, Acting.

  • 114: Illuminating Invisible Privilege with Karen Pittelman (and Why She Gave Away Her $3 Million Trust At 24)

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