282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding

Believe it or not, your emotions are a competitive advantage: 90 percent of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence, and 92 percent of executives rate soft skills like the ability to manage emotions as a critical priority in today’s business environment.

That said, if you relate to the idea of being a Sensitive Striver, you may still be suffering from what Melody Wilding calls The Honor Roll Hangover—a tricky trifecta of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overfunctioning. Listen in to this conversation for the antidote.

More About Melody: Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She is a human behavior expert and executive coach, and teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York. 

🌟 3 Key Takeaways:

• Leave margin in your life for serendipity and fluctuations. Don’t be afraid to book yourself to only 80% capacity.

• Protect your time and energy by protecting your calendar. Sensitive strivers need the time to switch gears between activities.

• Trusting yourself is the antidote to perfectionism, overfunctioning, and people-pleasing. Depend on your intuition more.

📝 Melody’s Permission List:

• I hereby grant myself complete and unlimited permission to: 

• In order to:

• Specifically, I have permission to feel: 

• I have permission to be:

• Specifically I have permission to push when: 

• I have permission to rest when: 

• I have permission to start: 

• I have permission to try: 

• I have permission to stop: 

• I have permission to let go: 

• Giving myself full permission and wholeheartedly believing in myself is important right now because: 

• I trust myself to: 

📘 Books Mentioned:

• Free Time: Lose The Busywork, Love Your Business 

• Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One

• Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work

• Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free

• The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You

🔗 Resources Mentioned: 

• Melody on the web | LinkedIn | Twitter | Instagram

• Video: Celebrating one year of Trust Yourself

• Articles: Medium Article on Trust Yourself, Forbes on Being an Overfunctioner at Work

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• 148: Penney & Jenny Show—Pivoting From Toxic Situations Toward Self-Entertainment

• 112: Whose Voice is in Your Head? Perfection Detox Round Two with Petra Kolber

• 73: What's more important to you than perfection? With Jenny Blake

• 56: Perfection Detox with Petra Kolber

• 78: How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t — With Andrea Owen

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