It’s right there in her last name: Maggie Reyes is a ray of sunshine who brightens every room she enters. Maggie’s energy in contagious, particularly when it comes to creating delightful, conscious relationships full of affection and appreciation.
We’ve both hired each other as a coach, and in just three sessions (and a surprise book she mailed me), Maggie completely transformed my approach to sticky relationship situations. I hope you enjoy this conversation around what it means to create a “5-star” marriage—and even who we’d each cast in the TV sitcom of our lives :)
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More about Maggie Reyes
Maggie Reyes is a Master Certified Life Coach + Marriage Mentor. She helps Smart, Soulful, Successful women (and a few amazing men) have healthier, happier, sexier marriages using simple tools she shares on her blog and coaching programs. She believes you can take the love you have and make it the love you want by making simple shifts in your relationships right now. Maggie is the host of the Marriage Life Coach Podcast, and author of the recently released Questions for Couples Journal: 400 Questions to Enjoy, Reflect, and Connect with Your Partner.
Topics Covered
The biggest game-changer book and shift in perspective
The same things that make us successful in work aren’t necessarily the same things that can make us successful at home
Having a five-star marriage: valuing excellence over perfection
What keeps her marriage one of affection and excitement even after almost 15 years together
Marriage is created every day; we have to recreate it every time
“We laugh about things most people fight about”
“It’s a miracle that we found each other, that we are together.”
What really matters?
Clear, open-hearted curiosity versus judgement
Practice the energy of open-hearted curiosity through powerful questions
Judgement keeps us alive; why it’s so common in relationships
Context really, really matters
For example: pediatrician - being right is essential for the well-being of her patients; at home, being right about small things that don’t matter in the big picture of life
Acceptance, kindness, letting go
Dance between acceptance and boundaries—what’s okay and what’s not
Constantly checking in with ourselves
Invite our highest and best self, and our highest and best outcome
Develop your own discernment, learn to trust yourself more and more
Do what’s right in front of you right now; it will always lead you to the next thing tomorrow
Practicing tradeoffs
Sample questions: How do you decide when it’s time to reassess a goal?
Your life story is being made into a TV sitcom: who plays you and who plays your partner?
Did you have any hobbies as a kid?
Resources Mentioned
Questions for Couples Journal: 400 Questions to Enjoy, Reflect, and Connect with Your Partner
Article: 7 Habits of Highly Happy Marriages
Books
Why Talking Isn’t Enough by Susan Page
The Five Love Languages, Spiritual Partnership by Gary Zukov
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
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