282: The Honor Roll Hangover with Melody Wilding

Believe it or not, your emotions are a competitive advantage: 90 percent of top performers are also high in emotional intelligence, and 92 percent of executives rate soft skills like the ability to manage emotions as a critical priority in today’s business environment.

That said, if you relate to the idea of being a Sensitive Striver, you may still be suffering from what Melody Wilding calls The Honor Roll Hangover—a tricky trifecta of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overfunctioning. Listen in to this conversation for the antidote.

More About Melody: Melody Wilding, LMSW is an executive coach, human behavior expert, and author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. She is a human behavior expert and executive coach, and teaches graduate-level human behavior and psychology at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York. 

🌟 3 Key Takeaways:

  • Leave margin in your life for serendipity and fluctuations. Don’t be afraid to book yourself to only 80% capacity.

  • Protect your time and energy by protecting your calendar. Sensitive strivers need the time to switch gears between activities.

  • Trusting yourself is the antidote to perfectionism, overfunctioning, and people-pleasing. Depend on your intuition more.

 

📝 Melody’s Permission List:

  • I hereby grant myself complete and unlimited permission to: 

  • In order to:

  • Specifically, I have permission to feel: 

  • I have permission to be:

  • Specifically I have permission to push when: 

  • I have permission to rest when: 

  • I have permission to start: 

  • I have permission to try: 

  • I have permission to stop: 

  • I have permission to let go: 

  • Giving myself full permission and wholeheartedly believing in myself is important right now because: 

  • I trust myself to: 

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